Estranged mother hires private investigator to probe into her 32-year-old daughter, who moved away, and changed her name to escape to rebuild her life: ‘I can’t even begin to imagine what she told this pi person to begin the investigation’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
May 27, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Some mothers send fruit baskets. Others send unsolicited advice, passive-aggressive birthday cards, or perhaps a friendly reminder that you "never call anymore." And then there are the select few who take time out of their busy schedules to hire a private investigator to track you down like a missing heir to a family treasure, which, incidentally, is not you.

At 32, our elusive daughter has achieved a true millennial milestone: changing her name, moving cities, and scrubbing her digital history cleaner than a politician's search engine. Not to avoid debt, not to escape fame, but to finally enjoy a little luxury called freedom from manipulation. 

Because Mom treats "no contact" like a challenge and views boundaries as a fun little dare. Her latest hobby? Stalking her own offspring, with the help of a PI apparently immune to the ethical concept of maybe don't help the stalker.

Naturally, nothing says maternal love like paying a stranger to dig for your child's whereabouts, bonus irony points for tracking down the daughter you always insisted you knew more about than she does about herself, only to discover she's thriving and engaged to a person you never met.

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  • "nMom hired a private investigator to find me"

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  • i (32f) went no contact with my ab ive nmother three years ago and she's done many things over the last three years to try to get to me and get info. however she
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  • recently sunk to a new low and hired a private investigator to investigate me and get my current whereabouts.
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  • since going no contact i've moved locations and changed my full name with all new socials to be untraceable. i found out about this when i suddenly saw her
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  • trying to request my fiancee on instagram despite not knowing about her
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  • and i asked my other friend whom i used to live with — who she's also stalked and harassed in the past and claimed he was brain
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  • washing me and holding my hostage recently - and that was when he said there was some stranger digging around the area and asking strangers about my
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  • whereabouts and my description. he found out through a cop family member that she had hired the private investigator on me.
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  • i can't even begin to imagine what she told this pi person to begin the investigation being that i have a squeaky clean record, no issues (other than childhood
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  • trauma thanks to her), and nothing illegal against me. i'm mentally sound as well i just simply chose to distance myself
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  • from her ab e and control over my life. i even have proof from three years ago of me telling her in an email, after she kept
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  • harassing me through emails, why i was going no contact and that if she tried to come to my home and find me she will be hearing from the police. as well as proof
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  • of a statement to police two months ago when she tried to spread her delusions of me being held hostage.
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  • after finding out about the pi, i feel violated and like my privacy and safety were once again stolen from me. i didn't want her to
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  • know anything about my new life to finally feel as though i have something to myself and boundaries, but she has since destroyed that.
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  • my questions are:
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  • what can i do at this point? there any legal actions i can take to finally end this?
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  • is there anything i can do about the fact that the pi handed her my info without my consent? i was not asked or approached directly by this pi, but they still gave her all my info regardless.
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